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I got hit with some bad news again Monday morning. It could be far worse, but still it wasn’t quite what I needed to start the week off with.
A few months ago I got hired as a part-time Chiropractic assistant. It was for Tuesday and Thursday nights from 1:30-7:00. There used to be a girl who covered those nights, but due to her college schedule she wasn’t able to be there anymore. It was a pretty simple job and I enjoyed the people I worked for.
Monday morning my phone rang.
I answered it and it was one of the Chiropractors I worked for. She said that the girl I had replaced was wanting to come back on Tuesday and Thursdays because her schedule had switched.
Due to her seniority (she had worked with them for 3 years) they were going to give her shifts back and….I was being laid off. AGAIN.
I know it was nothing I did. In fact they offered to write me a letter of recommendation, but it was still a tough blow.
I had flash backs to 7 months ago when I lost my job. Except that was a much tougher blow. Thankfully I have 2 other small jobs which won’t pay the bills but at least help.
The past 6-7 months have been full of lots of bad news. My husband and I joke a lot that we are prepared for just about the worst in any situation now because that has seemed to happen a lot.
I am beyond grateful for the opportunities I do have, but it was hard for me to accept that it was happening again.
I’ve learned there are a few things I’ve learned:
Accept That it Wasn’t Your Fault
I love to play the blame game with myself. I always want to take the blame and want to take the entire world on my shoulders with it. This does nothing but make you feel worse.
I did this when I lost my job the first time, and I wound up sulking for way longer than I should have. You have to keep moving and pushing forward even when it seems like the world is against you.
Just because something bad happens to you doesn’t mean that it was your fault or that you deserved it. Sometimes it just happens.
Mourn and then Move On
I remember calling my Mom after I lost my job in August 2013 and crying. I didn’t know what to do and I felt hopeless. I remember her saying to me “it’s okay to be upset, you have to mourn.”
I was a bit taken back by that comment because I lost my job, not a family member. However, she was right. When you lose something that was such a part of your life (even a job) you have to go through somewhat of a mourning process.
All the steps where there: sadness, blame, anger and then finally acceptance.
Yesterday it was not near as drastic but I got upset for about 20 minutes and then I moved on.
You can sit around and cry or you can keep pushing forward. Find things that can help further you in other areas and do your best to make the most of what you have.
My husband will love to see this one on here.
I have apologized to him countless times over the past 7 months. Again, like I mentioned earlier I wanted to take the blame even though neither situation was my fault.
I felt horrible for the situation, I wanted so much to take that stress off him and I couldn’t.
You can apologize once but don’t keep doing it. You have to be strong and realize sometimes things happen that are out of your control. Do your best to make the most of the time.
Focus on the Things You Love
Yesterday when I got the news (after my 20 minutes of being upset) I got up, packed my gym bag and the husband and I were out the door.
I knew that running and the gym always make me feel better even when I don’t want to go. I didn’t want to sit inside and think about it I just wanted to do something that made me happy.
I spent most of the night redoing the blog with my husband to help distract me and get me focused on something productive.
Focus on the things you love to do and do it! They will help you feel accomplished, happy and remind you some of the blessings you have in life.
I am focusing on the fact that i’m getting to start running again!
Note: Just don’t over do it like I did the first go around. I literally ran myself into an injury. No fun.
A New Start
I had several people tell me “think of this as a new start.” At first I just rolled my eyes because I didn’t want to hear it, but seriously if you look at it that way it can open so many doors for you.
You can do whatever you want. You can be whoever you want to be. You just have to take the steps in the right direction.
My position right now is a bit tricky since we are moving in 3 months, but I look at it as now I can really focus on looking for a great job and a great future down the road.
I truly believe life is what you make it and even though situations can bring us down, if you keep moving and following your dreams (yes as cliche as that sounds) you can make it into something new!
How to you handle bad news?
Have you ever been laid off from a job? What did you do?